You may want to give most people the benefit of the doubt, but sometimes you need to be careful where friendships are concerned. Here are some signs you’re dealing with a bogus BFF who secretly might be out to get you.
She only calls when she wants something.
A good relationship has balance. If you expect someone to be there for you, you should be willing to be there for her. Some people, however, don't quite grasp this concept or just don't seem to care about it. If you're dealing with friend who seems to be available only when she wants to borrow something, complain about her job or lament her latest crush -- but who disappears whenever you need support -- she's probably not worth the effort.
She lies -- a lot.
We all exaggerate sometimes, and some people are more prone to hyperbole than others. Still, someone who doesn't seem to ever tell the whole truth isn't worth having around. If you know she has a problem telling the truth, you won't be able to trust her -- and a friendship without trust just doesn't work.
She's over-competitive.
A little friendly competition can be fun, but she's not a worthy friend if she's always trying to one-up everything you do and can't be happy for you when something good happens. True friends don't act jealous or feel the need to undermine others' accomplishments; instead, they're happy for their friends' successes.
She only calls when she wants something.
A good relationship has balance. If you expect someone to be there for you, you should be willing to be there for her. Some people, however, don't quite grasp this concept or just don't seem to care about it. If you're dealing with friend who seems to be available only when she wants to borrow something, complain about her job or lament her latest crush -- but who disappears whenever you need support -- she's probably not worth the effort.
She lies -- a lot.
We all exaggerate sometimes, and some people are more prone to hyperbole than others. Still, someone who doesn't seem to ever tell the whole truth isn't worth having around. If you know she has a problem telling the truth, you won't be able to trust her -- and a friendship without trust just doesn't work.
She's over-competitive.
A little friendly competition can be fun, but she's not a worthy friend if she's always trying to one-up everything you do and can't be happy for you when something good happens. True friends don't act jealous or feel the need to undermine others' accomplishments; instead, they're happy for their friends' successes.
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